In less than three hours EST, it will be Dec 1st and NaNoWriMo 2012 will be over. Congratulations for all those who met your goals as well as 50K. For those who didn’t reach 50K, at least you are further on your projects than you were November 1st.
There are several things that I have learned while working on NaNoWriMo this years.
1. Taking the high road is really hard, especially when you have short cuts all over. (All of my stories I worked on this year, were already started. It would have been easier if I just took my previous words and use them, but I didn’t.)
2. There are very few who can actually give me a guilt trip and have it work. (Sorry FB people/friends/fans are not any of them.) *
Guilt trips not caused by me, but something that you just cannot let go. I do not make choices for you, you make your own choices, land you need to live up to them.
3. There are two types of people in my world:
Group A: Those who take what I say, nod their head, and go on with their life. (It doesn’t matter if they use what I say or not, they simply move on.)
Group B: Those who twist and turn every word I say, not getting the original meaning and then use it for blame and drama. (Make your own decision and Get Over It!)*
4. Word Sprints/ Word Wars are the butter to my bread. (I believe some people work better with small twenty minute sprints at a time. I found myself most productive with two twenty-five minutes per hour. I wrote between 2 to 6 hours a day. I still had to clean the apartment and make dinner everyday. I also knew when my brain was starting to fry; fried brain means nothing gets finished.)
5. Do not try to compete with everyone else in the groups. (It will just discourage you, because some people who type faster, and some people who aren’t stuck on their story. You need to find a way to make the 50K your own goal: use smaller goals and rewards to get you there. In the end the only person who is doing the typing/writing is you.)
6. Make a larger goal into smaller goals (I usually have a daily goal, and a weekly goal. I also gave myself reward such as playing video games or treats for reaching these goals.)
7. Encourage those when you can. (Because when you need that pick me up, someone should be there to help you. There was a lot of encouraging in the groups and forums I was in.)
8. I push myself and increase each year. (2010: I was happy with 56k. 2011: I got 63k and this year 2012: I got 102k. Next year I want to start and finish an entire story in 30 days. I read somewhere that Stephen King said that every first draft should be within six weeks.)
9. It’s good to end something. (It makes room for new things to come. I have too many projects that I have started. I know I can finish something, so I need to finish everything else.)
* (#2, 3) The Other side of Drama
Okay as you can see that there are two things that are marked with asterisk. I want to explain what happened . . . I was on facebook in one of my many writing groups and I had noticed that someone was bragging about doing two separate projects (not linking them together) for NaNoWriMo. I know for sure that this was against the rules. (NaNoWriMo is about taking a piece or related writing pieces and writing 50,000 words on that one project in 30 days. It’s about the writing bottom line, I understand this, but they do have rules to keep it a true challenge.)
So I privately messaged them because I was afraid that they could get into trouble. I’m not sure what NaNoWriMo does if you break the rules, but there has to be a reason why they have them. I imagine that they could take away the certificate and the extra sponsored goodies that come along with it. (I don’t know about everyone else, but if I busted my butt for 30 days, I certainly do not want my goodies or acknowledgment taken away.)
I never yelled at them, never used all cap. I never told them not to participate. I just didn’t want them to get in possible trouble for seeing them brag about breaking a rule.
Then they tried to say that I ruined NaNoWriMo for them. They tried to push the drama on facebook and in the groups. I explained to few people what happened; they understood what I was doing and told me that person was just being dramatic. I took the dramatic person off my notification list, but still kept them as friends. I thought it was over. (this was just before NaNoWriMo started.)
I honestly was trying to help someone not get into what I thought could be trouble. I thought it had stopped. It was a day after I had finished my NaNoWriMo and I got another message from this person. . . trying to push a guilt trip on me. I spammed the e-mail and blocked them. I don’t need someone, I was trying to help, giving me guilt trip. They could have still written the stories, they could have still worked on word count, but I just wouldn’t brag that they were breaking the rules. (I would have done if I was them was check the rules and consequences for breaking the rules. It wouldn’t have stopped me from writing.
I didn’t write this, because I feel guilty, but because I wanted my side of the story told. I just don’t want the other person making everyone think that is my fault for the decisions that they made. I am also worried that this person is putting me down, since I cannot see what they are saying about me in the group.
I am story teller and a writer, and I just want to have writing buddies that I can rely on. I understand this is one person, which is why I am dropping it after this blog.